And their death makes the sadness of the heart break much worse.
To add insult to injury, now your digestive system has to go through hell, too.
Then it takes work—intention and action—to get back to a healthy system again with new butterflies.
The action is to ingest proper organisms for the digestive system and to do effective exercise for the whole self. Only after getting the digestive system back to health does the broken heart begin to get strong again–albeit with scar tissue. The scar tissue is actually stronger tissue, although less flexible.
Following that, the whole self gets stronger and stronger at long last. It’s a frustratingly slow process, but those steps, in order, will speed it along some.
Then, if you spend some time and effort on re-strengthening the heart and soul, otherwise known as the emotional system, your love generator will get strong again (and as an aside, the endocrine system gets rebalanced. Really, literally, that’s how you positively affect your endocrine system.)
Once you get your heart and soul strong again, calm again, generating happiness and love for self first, and others after self, then and only then will you be ready for your next butterflies effect.
But you WILL get more butterflies in your stomach eventually.
If you do NOT exert any intention and effort to strengthen and heal yourself, you will nonetheless get butterflies eventually–perhaps if only toward the end of your life. And in that case, perhaps not with a life partner, but with other loved ones.
But if you do exert intention and exercise, you will enjoy those life-partner butterflies again. And that next time you will know the effect better than the last one you felt; you will appreciate it more as it starts and grows; you will cherish and nurture its health and growth; and you will find it is a saner, more healthful, more stable, truer, more mature butterflies effect than the one of that last time, when you relied on the heart-breaker to help it survive.
Furthermore, this time you can grow and keep your own alive while you more fully appreciate the synergistic effect of your new companion butterfly effecter. Then the two of you will even have more than ever to share with your loved ones.